Controlling Boyfriend Hides Passport From Girlfriend Right Before Her Flight

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    Font - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/Dontstealmypassport 7 hours ago 2 3 @2 3 3 AITA for ransacking my boyfriend's apartment?
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    Font - I (f25) have been with my boyfriend "Jake" (m34) for 8 months. Things were fine until I (against my better judgment) moved into his place a couple months ago. Since then, he's been getting kind of possessive and protective. I immediately told him to cut that shit out because it's off-putting, and things seemed to get better.
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    Font - Anyway, I have a friend in Mexico who is getting married. I've been excited to fly down for her wedding since she told me she was engaged a year ago. However, Jake has made it clear that he doesn't want me to go. He says Mexico is too dangerous, even though I've been there many times and even lived there for a year, speak Spanish, have friends there, and know my way around. No matter what I say, he doesn't want me to go.
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    Font - Then a couple of days ago my passport went missing from my nightstand. I'm supposed to go tomorrow, so I wouldn't have time to get a new one. I looked everywhere, no luck. When I asked Jake about it, he behaved a little suspiciously, but I dismissed it because I couldn't believe he would actually take my passport to keep me from going.
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    Font - But he's been giving me some red flags, so I decided to have a thorough look around. When he went out this morning, I started going through everything. As I searched, I became increasingly certain that he took my passport. I started off carefully picking through drawers and cabinets, but as my anger grew, I became a lot less careful. I started turning out drawers, pried open a brief case, made a total mess. But I found it. It was
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    Human body - behind some books on the bookcase in his study. I never go into his study. He definitely put it there.
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    Font - Now he's furious with me for going through his things and ransacking his place. He said he would have given my passport back, and there was no need for me to "go crazy."I'm just angry that he took it to begin with, and I don't believe him when he says he was going to give it back.
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    Font - This is only my third serious relationship, and I have no perspective on this kind of thing. AITA for "overreacting" and ransacking my (ex)boyfriend's place?
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    Font - Capable_Voice_54 Partassipant [2] : 7 hr. ago NTA.move out immediately and don't look back. This is the start of an abusive relationship he is starting lightly with the controlling so that you get used to it. That you even question that you are an AH for looking for YOUR passport that HE STOLE means that he is already succeeding. For your future safety run. You are not in so deep that you can't get out.
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    Font - Agreeable_Space2759 · 7 hr. ago Partassipant [4] NTA his behaviour is controlling and unacceptable. Your passport is not a small thing and you should be able to trust that important belongings are safe in your home. Please seriously consider ending this relationship, he is showing you what your future will be like with him.
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    Rectangle - ikediggety · 6 hr. ago If he'll take your passport to keep you from going to Mexico, he'll take your driver's license to keep you from leaving him...
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    Font - jaynsand - 7 hr. ago NTA. And run. There was no reason for him to take the passport in the first place except to keep you from going...leaving you out of all the cash you spent, isolating you from friends. He's trying to control you, and calling you "crazy" because you discovered the truth and he's trying to make you doubt it and yourself. Run.

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